Yesterday I unfriended someone on Facebook - not something I do very often. Usually, if a person has wildly different views of life than I do & I don't want to see his or her posts, I'll just hide that person from my news feed. But this time I decided that I just didn't need to be Facebook friends with a person who had this particular point of view. What did she post? It was one of those memes that said, in effect, no white person alive today ever owned a slave and no black person today has ever been a slave, so basically everyone just get over yourselves.
As if the effects of centuries of people owning other people can be rinsed down the drain like grime after a hard day's work. As if the very institutions that undergird our nation aren't set, by default, to favor white citizens. As if the average black child in the United States today really does have the same advantages as the average white child.
I read an essay the other day where a woman was talking to a black man who couldn't swim. She said that he must not have grown up around water. But he replied that his town had a pool, but that black people weren't allowed to use it. Today that town's pool most likely doesn't discriminate. But what is the legacy of this story from our (relatively) recent past? I grew up hearing that "black people don't swim," as if it was a genetic disposition instead of a lack of opportunity. And this is just one example of systemic discrimination.
I used to believe that once the "older generation" died off, the United States would become a utopia where no one was treated differently based on the color of their skin, sexual preference, gender, or nationality. I'm not that naive anymore. We can't afford to wait for some fictional utopia. We need to actively seek the change we want in the world. What does that look like for me or you? No clue. But I'm ready.
Wednesday, August 16, 2017
Sunday, August 13, 2017
Last week I had too many pictures & this week I don’t have enough. Well, we’ve had other things on our minds.
Sunday, August 6th
Some words I needed to hear at church this morning.
Monday, August 7th
Fresh peaches & pound cake – yum!
Tuesday, August 8th
I have this very irreverent weather app on my phone. I took issue with it this morning – I don’t think my coworkers are annoying at all!
Made some more progress on a project.
Wednesday, August 9th
I got some new eye makeup & I was playing with it. These are my attempts to get a picture of the result. Made me laugh.
Thursday, August 10th
I had four different pre-op appointments this morning! I was really glad that Dr. M came along, although it was awfully early in the morning for us. Perhaps between the two of us we can remember everything everyone said.
Friday, August 11th
We do not have a picture for today. I repeat, we do NOT have a picture for today. What the heck.
Saturday, August 12th
Dr. M took some pictures around the yard. My cousin’s son came over to mow again (THANKS DREW & JULIE!). I did absolutely nothing but sit in my chair & play on my iPad. It was glorious.
A week from today I’ll be packing my bag for the hospital. I hope I’m out of surgery soon enough to get to see some of the eclipse. It will just be a little dimmer where I am, but still… Do you have plans to watch?
Wednesday, August 9, 2017
Sunday, August 6, 2017
This week there are a LOT of pictures. I had major Decision Making Disorder. And I still didn’t use all the pictures – you’ll see some of them later this week.
Sunday, July 30th
I liked how my bracelet matched my new dress.
Hummingbird sighting! They love the petunias & morning glories.
Monday, July 31st
It was a good evening in Bug Hollow.
Tuesday, August 1st
I was trying to grow my hair out, but then I had an epiphany: Self – do you really want to mess with all that hair while you’re in the hospital? The answer was no, no I don’t.
Pretty little things.
Wednesday, August 2nd
Snack – there is some oatmeal under there.
We see them every day now.
Thursday, August 3rd
Friday, August 4th
One of our dear friends painted this and then sent it to Dr. M. It has William Blake’s poem “The Lamb” written on it.
There is a sunflower field near our house!!
And a farm where they grow flowers!
Saturday, August 6th
Daddy and Sue came over to help clean the house. They worked so hard and we are so grateful! I sat in my chair like a queen playing games on my iPad while they vacuumed, dusted, and cleaned the bathrooms & kitchen.
Eastern Tiger Swallowtail – it looks like it’s been through the wars. We told it that our impatiens bed was a fine place to retire.
So far August has been cooler than July (at least here in my neck of the woods). What’s the weather like where you are?
Sunday, July 30, 2017
After the festivities last week, it was a pretty quiet week around here. Nice!
Sunday, July 23rd
Here are some more pictures of the reception. That cake was SO GOOD ya’ll. Daddy & Sue brought me a big chunk of it later in the week. Would you believe that I ate some of it & then put the rest in the freezer for later?
Monday, July 24th
The morning glory that my dad gave us is totally taking over the petunia baskets. And we’re pretty much ok with that.
Tuesday, July 25th
Penguins against the sunset.
Wednesday, July 26th
Our porch skink!
Thursday, July 27th
As it was in Ohio, our North Carolina back yard is mostly a Mom & Pop operation.
Thursday night, tragedy struck! I had to use some random floss that my dentist gave me. Very sad.
Friday, July 28th
Eastern Tiger Swallowtail!
Saturday, July 29th
We were sitting out on the deck (SUCH a lovely day!) and had a visit from Mr. Roy.
The weeks seem to be speeding up as we approach my surgery date. I’m very excited, but I’m also remembering how annoying it was after my last surgery. Not to wish time away or anything, but I’m going to wish some time away: I would like for it to be December.
What are you looking forward to this August?
Thursday, July 27, 2017
Daddy & Sue had a reception on Sunday to celebrate their marriage. The food was great, and it was nice to meet some of Sue's family, and to see some of my family.
As promised, I made a toast to the happy couple:
Here's to the man who'd never marry again, and here's to the woman who said, "we'll see."
Here's to the woman who waited a while, and here's to the man who declared he'd be free.
Here's to the man who thought he'd go solo, but was lonesome and missed her.
And here's to the woman who brought him such joy he could no longer resist her.
Surprised, as they say, by that joy,
Because love has its own plan.
Here's to this woman!And here's to this man!
Sunday, July 23, 2017
There are lots of pictures this week because I had Decision Making Disorder. The theme for the week is pink. And flowers – since I can’t wander around the yard, Dr. M brings their images to me. No weird sandwiches this time. I probably shouldn’t tell you about the time I ate a bologna & cheese & mayo & banana & peanut butter & jelly sandwich. It was pretty tasty, but messy.
Sunday, July 16th
I LOVE all the crepe myrtle trees in my home town! There are so many different colors – I want one of each for my yard. This one in front of the nursing home happened to match what I was wearing, so I had to take a selfie with it.
Monday, July 17th
I had an early morning appointment and wore actual shoes for the second day in a row. Woo hoo!
Heather is still a sheep, and her impatiens are looking lovely.
The monkey grass is blooming!
And the bougainvillea is still going strong.
Tuesday, July 18th
Roy! Such a good boy.
Dr. M thinks this is a black morph female Eastern Tiger Swallowtail. I think it’s lovely!
Wednesday, July 19th
The only picture of the day – I was fiddling around with the Facebook Messenger app’s camera filters & got this cute picture of Samuel Spaniel, the ancient stuffed dog my brother gave me while I was in college. He’s almost 35 years old now!
Thursday, July 20th
Today my nephew came home from his tour of duty as a medic in Afghanistan. So glad to have him back in the states now!
Temperature scarf update (average temp each day, from March 1, 2017 – February 28, 2018). It’s going to be huge (well, we knew that, didn’t we?). I’m 40% done & it’s almost 3 ½ feet long. I like the cool weather colors better than the warm ones – good thing those will be the colors on each end of the scarf.
Friday, July 21st
My lunch on Friday – strawberries, bananas, apples, blueberries, peaches. It was too hot for real food. Well, for full disclosure I must admit that I had a tuna sandwich later as an afternoon “snack.”
Update on the blanket I’m making for a gift. I sewed the four panels together & now I need to do a border. I really don’t like sewing; therefore, I’m not very good at it. I fear this blanket will be rather lumpy. Maybe I’ll end up keeping it after all!
Saturday, July 22nd
More flowers from the yard – the vinca my dad gave us is thriving. And the ancestral phlox has decided to start blooming again.
Today we’re going to a reception to celebrate Daddy & Sue’s marriage. I have written a wedding toast. It’s a (bad) poem. I know you can’t wait, but I’m not posting it until later in the week. Ha! Anything special happening in your life this week?